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Old 03-12-2010 | 12:58 PM
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One - tell her you said you wanted her to wear more colors for her health. I don't know why anyone would wear dark colors in So Cal, let alone Temecula of all places. The air just sits and gets hotter and hotteR and hottER and hotTER and hoTTER and hOTTER and HOTTER! You just don't want her to get heat stroke.

Two - no idea

Three - again, So Cal. You're a dude, you're either into cars, trucks, the beach, or the snow. What does she talk about? Does she just listen? It's hard for guys to come up with new material if they do all the talking which inherently is unnatural.

If she keeps wigging out over small stuff, move on.
 
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Old 03-12-2010 | 01:02 PM
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dude learn this, women are like cats they don't know what they what so they want everything. idk your young and you will probably date more girls down the road always remember dating and being married is 50/50.

on the comment you made about her clothes just tell her i think wearing colorful clothes brings out the color of you eyes and hair. on the facebook thingy idk what to tell you there lol she might have been testing you with her friends hard to tell.

every woman out there will say that about you working on your car i think they get jealous about it. her wanting to go to the honda meet might be her way of apologizing about it idk lol.

just make sure you communicate to each other and have trust cause if you don't there is no relationship trust me ive been with my wife going on 9 years. good luck and hopefully this helps you.
 
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Old 03-12-2010 | 01:18 PM
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Try and work it out would obviously be the best thing. As hard as it may sound, you have to talk to her about things. It's the only way any good, healthy relationship works...If you can't comfortably talk to each other about serious, or even not so serious things, it just wont work.

"but i want this one to last as long as it can." <- I know 3 months isn't a long time but that just sounds like you want her around just because... If you reeeeally cared it'd probably be something like "I don't want to lose her at all".

Just my opinion, take how you want. Were all different anyways...

As for the other things..

1) The whole clothes thing, well you kinda dissed her style. For a girl that's a huge deal lol. In reality, it shouldn't matter how she dresses at all. Wanting her to change her style is essentially asking her in a way to change herself. She took that comment to heart which is why she now thinks she's not pretty in your eyes. Which probably really hurts her. You should really tell the one your with how pretty, beautiful, sexy, etc...they are just about everyday, and actually mean it! It makes a major psychological effect for BOTH of you. My only advice for getting her to add something new to her wardrobe is, maybe go shopping with her and pick out things for her to try on. If she doesn't like it, oh well, but it wont be as direct as "wear more color". She probably wouldn't even notice you trying to get her to try something new. You probably really should have tried that before saying anything lol. Just apologize to her for saying that, and tell her how you feel.

2) Well that's just her fault for giving you the information. I'd probably just apologize and tell her to change her password or w/e. Or simply tell her you wont go on her account. She might even think you're snooping around and that falls into trust issues so just assure her you won't do it again.

3) Only talking about cars is really not good haha. Obviously bring attention to her and what she has going on, her hobbies and whatnot. BUT, for a healthy relationship she does need to understand your passion for cars and let you do your thing. If she hates how much time you spend working on cars, or talking about them every once in a while, it just wont be good. Even if she's not into it, she should still support you.

Communication is always key, so talk to her about this stuff. If you don't say anything about the clothes thing, she'll always think she's not pretty. If you don't say anything about the facebook thing, she might always wonder what you're doing. If you don't tell her you need her support for your hobby, you'll be frustrated with her all the time about it and she'll never really understand.


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Old 03-12-2010 | 01:36 PM
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Yeah man..i've been dating my girlfriend for about 2.5 years, and she still gets jealous when i spend time working on my car. specially when i spend money on it lol.
I think its all normal...
and yeah i think she wanted to go to the honda meet to apologize for getting jealous about your car.

Good luck.
 
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Old 03-12-2010 | 01:59 PM
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Hi bro, just stick with her for long enough until one day you snap and choke her lol jk dont!. But dude its all about trust and be more aware of how she act around you. There are signs why she doing this and hopefully you will find out my young one. Chris let the light be with you!. good luck
 
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Old 03-12-2010 | 02:41 PM
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You poor fool, never EVER say anything that can even begin to be construed as an insult. Women are so very sensitive about their looks.

Buy her flowers. It's not as overused as you'd think. It works.

Shame on her for sharing info like that. I totally would never give out info like that. Gotta have some secrets.

Dude, if she has already brushed it off... don't believe it. She is over it but she'll remember it. Women will hold things like that over you for awhile. That's how it works.
 
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Old 03-12-2010 | 03:47 PM
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Originally Posted by chrismag
number one. she now thinks i dont think she is pretty with what she wears, just because of the comment i made
Sounds like my baby's mom.

I can't help you with #2. Personally, I hate facebook/twitter/myspace/etc.

#3? If she doesn't like it, oh well. It's called a hobby...enjoy it. She should have her own hobbies. Don't tell me she wants to spend almost every waking hour with you, just sitting around and doing nothing.

sooo that being said, i dont know what to do, she gets mad then acts like nothing happened
Again... sounds like my baby's mom.

and any one else. what would you do.
Well, I have a tarnished past which will create a biased opinion, but I would walk away and leave her.

Who knows? You might end up together forever and live happily ever-after.

Originally Posted by Shinobi
Hi bro, just stick with her for long enough until one day you snap and choke her lol jk dont!
LOL. Awesome. One more time, reminds me of the relationship with my baby's mom. haha

Originally Posted by WellFedHobo
You poor fool, never EVER say anything that can even begin to be construed as an insult. Women are so very sensitive about their looks.

Buy her flowers. It's not as overused as you'd think. It works.

Dude, if she has already brushed it off... don't believe it. She is over it but she'll remember it. Women will hold things like that over you for awhile. That's how it works.
Quoted for truth.
 
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Old 03-12-2010 | 04:22 PM
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Originally Posted by chrismag
ok, soo i have been dating this girl for about 3 months, and
i thought all was good till yesterday, when i suggested that she should wear more color..ha she likes to wear, alot of dark clothes. which i am fine with but i guess that suggestion set her over the top.

Dont tell her what to wear, just say "this would look great on you".. been there done that...

and hey i know i am young, and i know there are alot of women out there,

but i want this one to last as long as it can.

so to her there were three things i did that she cant stand,

number one. she now thinks i dont think she is pretty with what she wears, just because of the comment i made,

throw her a couple compliments, and just say romantic things like "i have never seen prettyer eyes than yours" or something corny like that. Girls like it when you compliment them on their looks (other than breast and ***)

number two. she gave me her info for her facebook....for idk why, she just did, soooo i went one a few times just for the hell of it, and she got mad because one of our friend started to talk to her through the instant messanger and i said, "hey this is chris, lindsey will be on later"
and she got pissed about that, why the hel would she give me her password if she didnt want me to go on??

BIIIIIIIIIIG MISTAKE!!! thats like a test, that happened to me before to. They want to be open and share things with you but they dont want you snooping thru their **** because thats a sign of trust issues.. Just tell her you were looking on her page to see a mutual friends page in wich you dont have added as a friend!

number three...this one kind of pissed me off, because she isnt the first one who has said this too me.....she said "i have never known any guy more obbsessed with thier car as much as you are" she said that its all i talk about, i talk to her more as a friend then as she is my girl friend.
and the wierd thing is, is this happened yesterday morning, and she called me up at like 7 asking me if i will take her to the honda meet that was last night,

Of corse, they are going to bitch, they want to make you think that they "put up" with you so you will feel like your lucky to have her.. if she diddnt want you always ****ing with ur car, trust me, there would be more signs like she would cut you off, or get a bad attitude everytime u mention it, and she would never want you to goto a honda meet, she would ask u to take her somewhere or something. just tell her that hondas are number 2 on your list of most loved things, and say she is number one, she wont know what to say

sooo that being said, i dont know what to do, she gets mad then acts like nothing happened

is that because she realized she was stupid for thinking that way and she hopes for me to just forget it???

soo...
reaper, supersize, thats me!!!! stiflersmom,
cvcrcr99, plethoric33, wellfedhobo

and any one else. what would you do.
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