dam that was alot of reading, you had feelings and trust issues, and she obviously didn't give a ****, she sorta sounds like she was sorry, but she pushed the limits, IMO, I can see 1 night, mybe 2 at the most, but not 5.

 

eh if u love and trust her u made a mistake. Maybe she didnt cheat? Personally, i wouldnt be upset, if she cheats ull find out sooner or later, then u break up........I treated my ex gf like gold.......she cheated, i caught her, and she regrets it to this day, because sheknows shell never find someone like me. Life goes on BUT, maybe she didnt cheat, and youre over-reacting.

 

ah that's a very good point Pete, but I dunno, I can only be nice to a point, before they start using you

 

Still its pretty lousy of her to go and do something like that by leaving 95 on the fence.

 

I don't know what to say guys. i just went to work and got out really early. and she called me when she was on break and she wants to go out this wekend and she wants me to meet her later tonite. i don't know what to do. i havent made up my mind. i really like her but i don't know if i can trust her. i think it was the sex. im going to go with . 2000 you were right it was a bad decision to have sex right then. dammnit. well i gotta go im meeting this girl in about 5 mins at her house. she wants to talk to me about sumthin. its not my ex if thats what you're asking i think i will go see her later. im at school right now. gotta go thanks for all your guys help and thought in to this and thanks for helping me see what i think i need to do. althoiught i still havent decided what to do. damn

 

95's thinkin' with his head... the other one, that is. lol

 

Im glad you understood what I meant. A lot of guys find it hard to think that way. And it probably would be a lot easier on you to decide exactly what it is you want to do, if you werent having sex with her. Who knows, maybe you will decide to give her another chance because you feel you can trust her, and if you can, Im happy for you. But then atleast it would be for the right reason. Not because you wanted to have sex. Good luck buddy..relationships arent easy and they definitely arent always fun. DR is right, either you marry the person or you break up and end up finding the person that you will marry.

 

aight so i had school today she calls me when she woke up. guess when, wile she was brushing her teeth in the morning. i was like holy crap. does she not know or does she just not care. SO i ask her what she needed and she was like i just wanted to talk to you. i was lke i dunno if thats a great idea. she said please lets have lunch again. so i'm like ok. so i meet her at chili's in north knoxville. she says she needs to talk. she apologized for the whole situation and how it made me feel. and she didn't mean to hurt my feelings and **** like that. so im sittin herelike omg what is she wanting from me. and then all of a sudden she tells me that she wants to get back together.................................i said who, what, whoa whoa whoa..............hold on a minute. i said 'so you want me to take you back after.....and then i explained IN DETAIL what she did to me, 'and she looks at me, and says yes, i said i don't know. i dont think i would ever be able to trust you after what you did. she was like, please, please, please. i said. don't beg that doesnt help ppl . just dogs. she looked at me like WTF. and she said huh. i said nuthin. i was like you know what, i dont know if i should. i dont think it would be a very good idea. at leaast not right now. i think you need to have time to think about what you did, and what effect it hhad on me. and how you really lost the trust i had in you. she was like..i know, but i promise i will work on it. i told her. yes yo need to work on it. but i dont know if i will be able to change my decision. and she asked me to please just think about it. I told her i would think about it i would seriously consider it but i just didnt know at that point. guys i dont really know what to do. i mean itold her that we could be friends b4. and we were friends b4 we started dating. iu've know her for about 3 years. and i mean i don't want to loser her as a friend if she gets mad at me, but at that the same time. i don't want to take back a cheater. so i guess i got some serisou thinking to do. don't i.

 

from experience... nice guys finnish last. i have been cheated on and gave the 2nd chance but everytime i have done it... its back to the same old ****.

good luck with what ever you do.