Definitely companionship. The key for me is just getting along, screw all that other crap. If you can't spend an extended period of time with your girlfriend without getting annoyed, then she aint right for ya. In college I learned that I get really bored/irritated with girls quite fast. Every girl i thought was great at first, ended up just bugging me after like a week. But get this, my girlfriend and I have lived together since we met, as crazy as that sounds. We hooked up at a party I was throwing at my house, and she ended up spending the entire weekend there, then the next week, and pretty soon we were moving her stuff in. And I had absolutely no problem with it, because we get along sooooo freaking well.

As most you know, I'm a very sarcastic person, and a sense of humor is crucial. Lori is just as sarcastic as I am, and she rips on me just as hard, if not harder than I rip on her, which is awesome to me. So heres what I looked for in the perfect girl.. Sense of humor, we have to get along very well, have some things in common but not too many, and is smart with money (cause i'm not ).

 

Lot of good points made here. I've been married 9 years and I'm a witness that when it comes down to making a relationship work, communication and quality time are THE most important. As far as "roles" are concerned, that will always vary. My brother cooks, cleans, a watched the kids, while his wife mows the yard, weedeater etc. This is simply their preference. In my marriage, I am the cleaning person, washing, and I share in the cooking sometimes. (I am a horrible cook) One point I'd like to make is: most people get into a relationship for what another person can do for them. So, everyone is in a position to take. If each person gives 100% it will more than likely be reciprocated. When you love someone, you want to do for that person, not just the other do for you. When you get two people with that mindset, you've got a relationship that will last...

 

feh...i can cook more than all the girls i know combined. i wash my own clothes (and use fabric softener ). im pretty much independent from my family other than the fact that they pay for my insurance and some taxes. i agreed to do this just so i can get experience for when i leave the house.

of course...my parents dont approve of most of the things i do...so i cant wait to get out.

 

If I were your parents, I wouldnt approve of your extreme pornographic activities either

 

"most people get into a relationship for what another person can do for them. "
that seems the wrong way to go, so if that's right then basically in most cases man's looking for woman to cook clean, do household stuff, besides other help around(because that's stuff that he isn't interested in doing and a woman tends to think more domestically)
The woman looks for a guy to mow the lawn and fix things around the house because she has no interest in that, and probably doesn't know how.
Maybe most people just sort of fall into those categories, not necessarily meaning to, but it happens.
Or maybe I make too much of this but it always seems to become a hang up, when somebody seems to like me for who I am then starts trying to change me to suit the stereotype sort of female.

 

i feel that i have an interesting perspective on a question like this. my girlfriend, who i hope to marry some day, is currently the bread winner...i have recently had a serious interview for a very good job, but i am a pessimist, so i dont like how the interview went. i do have a job, as we actually do the same thing right now, but she is better at our job than am i. she works long hours, and because of that, i do alot of cleaning around the house. also, i used to run a restaurant, so i do about 95% of the cooking. she can cook, and over the last few days, she has been cooking more than i have, but for things liek guests meals, or fancy meals, i cook, and she does dessert (i dont like sweets, so i do get into desserts).

i get alot of the "you cook, you sissy", but for those of you who have seen a picture of me, i certainly dont look like the cooking and cleaning type, but i would never expect her to clean because shes the girl. those aspects were never a consideration when we were courting. a friend of mine has a very VERY hot fiancee, and she doesnt do a DAMN thing. she does not cook, and she does NOT clean. she ruins laundry when she does it, her clothes are in piles all over the bedroom. he also doesnt cook or clean, so their house is a complete mess, and they always eat out. she PAYS someone to come clean the dog cra out of their back yard for her stupid little dog. a while back, she backed down ehr driveway into a F350 parked IN the driveway, in broad daylight..she said "i didnt notice it"...it realy screwed up the car. my buddy is very mechanically inclined, so he went to the junk yard and bought the parts to fix it (2003 tibby). it needed new tails, new hatch, new wiper system, and some other small things. he tried to put the new hatch in by himself,but found that he couldnt hold it in the right place, and bolt it up, and when he asked for her help, she basically refused. once she finally did come help, she cried while she did...

while i do not expect my girlfriend to do anything, but she tries her ebst to help with car stuff, as she is into cars. i changed her water pump a while back, and she helped me with that...

 

well then you got to wate for the guy who likes you for you and dosen't want you to change. To make any relationship work both people have to change a little, but not to the amount were theres nothing the same about it..im sure theres a guy out there you will find who dosent care about the stereotype femail but cares only about u, and loves u for the way you act,not how u should act

 

i agree with mill....i'm also disobeying the title of this topic, but oh well.

i have dated a lot of guys, and most of them didn't try to change me into a stereotype of what they thought their girlfriend should be. if a guy wants to start changing you, then come back at him with something about him needing to be more sensitive, or more affectionate or whatever. but ultimately you'll be the happiest when you find a guy you can just be yourself around. my boyfriend and i can talk about ANYTHING and i'm incredibly comfortable being myself around him. a couple years ago before my boyfriend and i started dating, i basically adopted the attitude that if someone didn't like me for who i am, then screw them (not literally, of course). it's really helped eliminate a lot of unwanted drama from my life.

some guys might even be intimidated by the fact that you like cars, ilinihonda. just hang in there and don't worry about some guys who aren't secure enough to date a girl who can be interested in things like cars.

 

shhh!! haha

nice sig remmy