guys only
#11
10-19-2005 | 03:38 PM
Joined: Oct 2005
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RE: guys only
ORIGINAL: dj_ipirate
i think everyone is overlooking the real deal. its not who cooks, cleans, and works. its when your confortable with each other. all that other**** is just steriotipical garbage that we base so much on.
i think everyone is overlooking the real deal. its not who cooks, cleans, and works. its when your confortable with each other. all that other**** is just steriotipical garbage that we base so much on.
what you WANT is to find someone who fits these criteria:
1 - is self-sufficient. can they cook/clean/do laundry/iron? (you should make sure you can do all of those, as well)
2 - has specific goals in mind; i.e. doesn't want to just float through life. this makes it easier for her to get that better job she wants, etc
3 - isn't a wild n' crazy party child. sure, they're fun, but 9 times out of 10 they're not worth it for the long haul unless you BOTH start out as partiers, and make a decision to go easy on the partying. this kind of person generally doesn't want to grow up...they'll end up in their late 20s, still partying with kids in their late teens and early 20s, and still need mom to cook for them(not that i'm bitter or anything.. [:@] )
4 - has the ability to save money
5 - doesn't expect handouts
6 - has both book and street smarts.
7 - is neither a feminist, nor expects you to do everything for her(this one's a harder one to pick out).
i could go on, but this seems to work for a LOT of people.
#12
10-19-2005 | 03:46 PM
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From: Rochester, NY
RE: guys only
ORIGINAL: DCAcivic
were are car geeks.girls dont like us
were are car geeks.girls dont like us
Also, I LOVE to cook and alla that, so what I'm mostly looking for is someone I can really be myself with, someone that has a sence of humor in line with mine, someone that's really layed back, just someone I can really mesh with.
#13
10-19-2005 | 05:53 PM
Joined: Aug 2005
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RE: guys only
ORIGINAL: snoochiebooches
agreed. (sorry i disobeyed the title...). this, however, is a problem for BOTH genders.
what you WANT is to find someone who fits these criteria:
1 - is self-sufficient. can they cook/clean/do laundry/iron? (you should make sure you can do all of those, as well)
2 - has specific goals in mind; i.e. doesn't want to just float through life. this makes it easier for her to get that better job she wants, etc
3 - isn't a wild n' crazy party child. sure, they're fun, but 9 times out of 10 they're not worth it for the long haul unless you BOTH start out as partiers, and make a decision to go easy on the partying. this kind of person generally doesn't want to grow up...they'll end up in their late 20s, still partying with kids in their late teens and early 20s, and still need mom to cook for them(not that i'm bitter or anything.. [:@] )
4 - has the ability to save money
5 - doesn't expect handouts
6 - has both book and street smarts.
7 - is neither a feminist, nor expects you to do everything for her(this one's a harder one to pick out).
i could go on, but this seems to work for a LOT of people.
ORIGINAL: dj_ipirate
i think everyone is overlooking the real deal. its not who cooks, cleans, and works. its when your confortable with each other. all that other**** is just steriotipical garbage that we base so much on.
i think everyone is overlooking the real deal. its not who cooks, cleans, and works. its when your confortable with each other. all that other**** is just steriotipical garbage that we base so much on.
what you WANT is to find someone who fits these criteria:
1 - is self-sufficient. can they cook/clean/do laundry/iron? (you should make sure you can do all of those, as well)
2 - has specific goals in mind; i.e. doesn't want to just float through life. this makes it easier for her to get that better job she wants, etc
3 - isn't a wild n' crazy party child. sure, they're fun, but 9 times out of 10 they're not worth it for the long haul unless you BOTH start out as partiers, and make a decision to go easy on the partying. this kind of person generally doesn't want to grow up...they'll end up in their late 20s, still partying with kids in their late teens and early 20s, and still need mom to cook for them(not that i'm bitter or anything.. [:@] )
4 - has the ability to save money
5 - doesn't expect handouts
6 - has both book and street smarts.
7 - is neither a feminist, nor expects you to do everything for her(this one's a harder one to pick out).
i could go on, but this seems to work for a LOT of people.
Very well put! IMO there's two type of guys. There's the wam bam thank you, guy. And the other is the one that wants a relationship.
Everything should be 50/50. My fiance and I are pretty much equal. As long as you find yourself comfortable with the person your with and can share anything, you'll be find. Love, Trust and just kick back! Everything else with fall in it's place.[sm=smiley20.gif]
#14
10-19-2005 | 07:08 PM
Joined: Mar 2005
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RE: guys only
ORIGINAL: Chimera02EX
Yeah definately the companionship, I'm engaged, and I don't expect her to do all the cooking cleaning laundry etc, though with the profession I'm going into she may need to take a greater (not all note but a larger) percentage of that work than myself. As for cooking, I am by far the better chef outta us, but I can't make those southern dishes like she can.
Most important thing in a relationship is communication. Hands down.
I think women do expect certain things from a guy, house repairs, yard work, putting dishes IN the dishwasher not just on the couter near the dishwasher, things of that nature. i can't say I resent it, but sometimes it's expected on an unrealistic shedule.
Yeah definately the companionship, I'm engaged, and I don't expect her to do all the cooking cleaning laundry etc, though with the profession I'm going into she may need to take a greater (not all note but a larger) percentage of that work than myself. As for cooking, I am by far the better chef outta us, but I can't make those southern dishes like she can.
Most important thing in a relationship is communication. Hands down.
I think women do expect certain things from a guy, house repairs, yard work, putting dishes IN the dishwasher not just on the couter near the dishwasher, things of that nature. i can't say I resent it, but sometimes it's expected on an unrealistic shedule.
#16
10-19-2005 | 07:40 PM
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RE: guys only
I have been around the block a few times, and I have to tell ya, it depends on the age of the guy. Most young guys don't think about the cooking and the cleaning. It's looks, sex, and if the girl will accept him the way he is. When you get to my age(37) and your still on the market, your looking for compatability with everyday interests, hobbies for example, financial outlook, head on her shoulders, personality, moals and ethics. What I'm trying to say is that What a young man looks for in a young lady is far different than what a more mature man looks for in a mature women when it comes to "long term relationships". Now, for the one night stands between to consenting adults (18-???), it's pretty much equal..."Looks, body, looks, body and looks and body. Everyone agree???
#17
10-19-2005 | 08:35 PM
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Posts: 7,168
From: Jersey
RE: guys only
Quite honestly, I LIKE to cook. I eat very healthy and hit the gym a lot, so I HAVE to cook. I have cooked for previous girlfriends, they really seem to like that. I do my own laundry and clean up after myself. I do not need anyone to do that. I want a girl for a the finer things in life. Coming home from work and having someone you can just relax with, and enjoy their company. I am easy to live with, because I am very neat. So in my eyes, women are for companionship.
Now get in the kitchen and make me a sandwich!!!!! (juuust kidding) [sm=grinangel.gif]
Now get in the kitchen and make me a sandwich!!!!! (juuust kidding) [sm=grinangel.gif]
#19
10-20-2005 | 07:10 AM
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RE: guys only
ORIGINAL: civic x
Very well put! IMO there's two type of guys. There's the wam bam thank you, guy. And the other is the one that wants a relationship.
Everything should be 50/50. My fiance and I are pretty much equal. As long as you find yourself comfortable with the person your with and can share anything, you'll be find. Love, Trust and just kick back! Everything else with fall in it's place.[sm=smiley20.gif]
Very well put! IMO there's two type of guys. There's the wam bam thank you, guy. And the other is the one that wants a relationship.
Everything should be 50/50. My fiance and I are pretty much equal. As long as you find yourself comfortable with the person your with and can share anything, you'll be find. Love, Trust and just kick back! Everything else with fall in it's place.[sm=smiley20.gif]
thankya. i agree, there ARE two types of guys out there. i've been so out of the party scene that i didn't know what i was getting into with my last boyfriend - he, at 28, still parties like he's 21. he's lost 2 pairs of glasses on I-95 from puking out the window. reall mature, right?basically, those of us interested in a relationship are all looking for the same thing - a mature adult. you won't find that at a club or bar. as corny as it seems, you might actually find that person online. i found my Mike online, and i couldn't be more in love...after knowing him for 3 years, i swear i'm the happiest woman alive.
also, guys, remember something - every relationship takes work. if it's worth it, you won't be on here complaining.
#20
10-20-2005 | 07:11 AM
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RE: guys only
ORIGINAL: Oldman_civic
I have been around the block a few times, and I have to tell ya, it depends on the age of the guy. Most young guys don't think about the cooking and the cleaning. It's looks, sex, and if the girl will accept him the way he is. When you get to my age(37) and your still on the market, your looking for compatability with everyday interests, hobbies for example, financial outlook, head on her shoulders, personality, moals and ethics. What I'm trying to say is that What a young man looks for in a young lady is far different than what a more mature man looks for in a mature women when it comes to "long term relationships". Now, for the one night stands between to consenting adults (18-???), it's pretty much equal..."Looks, body, looks, body and looks and body. Everyone agree???
I have been around the block a few times, and I have to tell ya, it depends on the age of the guy. Most young guys don't think about the cooking and the cleaning. It's looks, sex, and if the girl will accept him the way he is. When you get to my age(37) and your still on the market, your looking for compatability with everyday interests, hobbies for example, financial outlook, head on her shoulders, personality, moals and ethics. What I'm trying to say is that What a young man looks for in a young lady is far different than what a more mature man looks for in a mature women when it comes to "long term relationships". Now, for the one night stands between to consenting adults (18-???), it's pretty much equal..."Looks, body, looks, body and looks and body. Everyone agree???
